Friday, May 8, 2009

Love Dare~Days 12-14

Okay...for the next couple of weekends, we'll be on the road alot. So...I'm going to make it a little easier on me and post the weekends at the same time (just the dares), because I'm afraid if I don't do it while I have time then it won't get done! So, I'll do day 12 as normal, and then just post the dares for 13 and 14.

Day 12-"Love let the other win"

"Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others." -Phil 2:4

A few notes from today's reading:

~Defending your rights and opinions is a foundational part of your nature and makeup. It can steal away time and productivity, and also cause great frustration.
~We need to be more "willing." It's an attitude and spirit of cooperation that should permeate our conversations.
~"Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus." (Phil 2:5)-the attitude of willingness, flexibility, and humble submission.
~It means laying down for the good of others what you have the right to claim for yourself.
~The wise and loving thing to do is to start approaching your disagreements with a willingness to not always insist on your own way. That's not to say that your spouse is necessarily right or being wise about a matter, but you are choosing to give strong consideration to their preference as a way of valuing them.

Today's Dare:

Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Tell them you are putting their preference first..

To Journal:

~What issue did you choose?
~What did giving in cost you?
~How will this help you in the future?
~Were you able to complete today's dare?

Day 13-"Love fights fair"

Today's Dare:

Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to "fight" by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.

**A little sidenote from the reading:
~"We" boundaries are rules you both agree on beforehand, rules that apply during any fight or altercation. "Me" boundaries are rules you personally practice on your own.

To Journal:

~If your spouse participated with you, what was their response?
~What rules did you write for yourself?
~Were you able to complete today's dare?

Day 14-"Love takes Delight"

Today's Dare:

Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse. Do something he/she would love to do or a project they'd really like to work on. Just be together.

To Journal:

~What did you decide to give up?
~What did you do together?
~How did it go?
~What new thing did you learn about your spouse?
~Were you able to complete today's dare?

I hope everyone has a great weekend!!! :)

giving up hardheadedness,

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